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萨古鲁谈什么是真正的朋友

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How To Be A Good Friend and Avoid Being A Bad One

如何成为好朋友避免成为坏朋友


Most friendships form when two people find common ground – sharing likes and dislikes and supporting each other’s way of thinking. However, Sadhguru explains, even apples and oranges can be true friends if they have the courage to do whatever is best for the other while still being loving and nice.


大多数友谊形成在于两个人找到共同点——分享喜恶,支持彼此的思想。然而,萨古鲁解释说,如果苹果和橙子有勇气去做对彼此最好的事情,同时仍然充满爱心和友善,那么它们也可以成为真正的朋友。


Sadhguru: You are always making friends among those who support your way of thinking, feeling, understanding, liking, and disliking. All you are seeking is some supporting substance for whatever nonsense you have made out of yourself.


萨古鲁:你总是拿那些支持你思维方式、感觉、理解方式、喜欢或者不喜欢的方式去交朋友。你所寻求的一切都是你对自己荒谬念头和愚蠢行为的支持。


For me, friendship is not an advantageous transaction or give-and-take, for me friendship is a certain overlapping of life. A relationship which can touch another life profoundly.-sg


对我来说,友谊不是一种有利的交易或交换,对我来说友谊是生活的某种重叠。一种能深深触动另一种生活的关系 -萨古鲁 


Good Friends Aren’t Always Nice

好朋友并不总是很友好



It happened last winter, a tiny little bird enjoyedthe fall time a little bit too much and didn’t start its journey south earlyenough. It started a little late in the winter and tried to fly out, and itjust froze and fell down. A cow was passing that way and it dropped a heap ofdung. The dung fell right over the bird and covered it. The warmth of the dungslowly defrosted the bird and he started feeling good and started tweetinghappily. 


去年冬天,一只小鸟太享受秋天的时光了,没有早点开始它的南方之旅。冬天晚些时候,它尝试飞出去,于是就冻僵了并掉到地上。一头母牛从那条路上经过,拉了一堆粪便。粪便正好落在小鸟身上,盖住了小鸟。粪便的温暖慢慢解冻了这只小鸟,小鸟感觉很棒,高兴地鸣叫起来。


A true friend is someone who has the courage to tellyou what shit you are, and still be loving and nice to you – that isfriendship.

真正的朋友是那种有勇气告诉你就是狗屁,但是仍然爱着你,对你很好的人—这就是友谊。


A cat was going that way. It heard the tweet, lookedaround, and saw that the tweet was coming from inside the dung. He pushed thedung off, pulled the bird out of the dung and ate him up. So, whoever heaps youup in shit need not necessarily be your enemy. Whoever pulls you out of shitneed not necessarily be your friend. And above all, when you are in a heap ofshit, learn to keep your mouth shut.  


一只猫朝那边走。它听到了鸣叫,环顾四周,发现鸣叫是从粪便里发出来的。他把粪便推开,把鸟从粪中拉出来吃掉了它。所以,用粪便把你埋藏起来的人,也不一定是你的敌人。把你从粪便里拉出来的人,也不一定是你的朋友。最重要的是,当你陷入困境,学会闭上你的嘴。


Good Friends Say What Needs to be Said

好朋友要说需要说的话


If you are a friend to someone, you don’t have tonag them with what is wrong with them; that is not the point. But at the sametime, you must have the courage to be unpopular with people. In trying to bepopular with people, in just trying to maintain some kind of pleasantnessaround you, see how much unpleasantness you have buried within yourself. 


如果你是某人的朋友,你不必唠叨他们有什么问题;这不是重点。但同时,你必须有勇气不受他们欢迎。在努力受人欢迎的过程中,在努力保持你周围的某种愉悦感的过程中,看看你内心埋藏了多少不快乐。


Be a little more courageous in your friendships. Beready to lose them, it’s okay. At least if you care, you must do what is goodfor the other, not for yourself.


在友谊中多一点勇气。做好失去他们的准备,没事的。至少如果你在乎,你必须做对别人有利的事,而不是对自己有利的事。


If you bury unpleasantness, if you put seeds ofunpleasantness into the soil, you will reap fruits of unpleasantness. If youreally have a friend, you must have the courage to be unpopular with him orher, and still be loving and okay with him. Right now, your friendships arealways made on agreements, likes and dislikes. But even if you are apples andoranges, you can still be good friends. A true friend is someone who has thecourage to tell you what shit you are, and still be loving and nice to you –that is  friendship.


如果你埋下不愉快的种子,如果你把不愉快的种子撒在土壤里,你就会收获不愉快的果实。如果你真的有一个朋友,你必须有不受他或她的欢迎的勇气,并且仍然爱他们,对他们没有意见。现在,你的友谊总是建立在一些协议标准、喜欢和不喜欢的基础上。但是,即使你是苹果和橘子,你们仍然可以成为好朋友。一个真正的朋友是有勇气告诉你就是一狗屁,但他仍然爱你,对你很好——这就是友谊。



Good Friends Have The Courage to be Unpopular

好朋友要有勇气不受欢迎


On a certain day, three generals from the US Armymet. They were on a tour of the Grand Canyon,along with their troops. The first general wanted to brag about the courage andthe spirit of obedience in his battalion, so he said, “There is no otherbattalion like mine. The level of courage and obedience is so high. Realcourage! Let me show you an example.” He boomed “Private Peter!”  Private Petercame running, “Yes, Sir!”  “You see this,” the general pointed at the Grand Canyon. “I want you to just take a leap across thecanyon, now!”  The man just ran, full speed and took off. Obviously, you knowwhere he landed.  Then the second  general laughed and said, “That is nothing.Look at this.” He said “Trooper Higgens!”  


某一天,美国陆军的三位将军见面了。他们和自己的军队在美国大峡谷旅游。


第一个将军想自夸他军营有勇气和服从的精神,所以他说:“没有其他军营能比得上我们。勇气和服从的水平是如此之高。这是真正的勇气!让我给你看看一个例子。他低沉有利的叫二等士兵彼得!  彼得跑过来,回应将军。将军指着大峡谷说你看这个。“我要你现在就跳过峡谷!”“于是他全速奔跑,然后就飞下去了。很明显,你知道他会在哪里着陆。”第二个将军笑着说:“这算不了什么。接下来给你们看看。这时他叫了一个士兵,名叫希根斯!”


“Yes, Sir!” Trooper Higgens arrived.  “Itis an emergency. I want you to fly and go across the canyon and inform myofficer there about this.”  The man flapped his hands, and you know whathappened.  The third general just kept quiet. The others nudged him and said,“What about yours?” And they laughed, “No courage.”  


希根斯过来,将军说:“这是紧急情况。我要你飞过去,穿过峡谷,把这件事通知我的军官。这个士兵挥动双手翅膀,这时你就该明白会发生什么。第三个将军只是保持沉默。其他人用胳膊肘推了他一下说:“你的呢?” 他们笑道:“没有勇气。”


Some of the general’s men were loitering around, sohe said, “Hey you.” One of them came. The general said, “Now, look at that downbelow,” and pointed to a swirling, quick-moving stream, which was just twohundred meters from a steep waterfall. He said, “I want you take this littlecanoe, and cross the river.” 


将军的一些部下四处游荡,他说:“嘿,你。其中一个走了过来。将军说,“现在,看看下面,”并指了指一个漩涡,在快速移动的小溪里,它离一个陡峭的瀑布只有200米。他说:“我要你带着这只小独木舟过河。”


The guy looked down and said, “General, it lookslike you have been on your whiskey once again. I am not going to do such a damnstupid thing.”  The general turned to the others and said, “See, this is realcourage.”  Be a little more courageous in your friendships. Be ready to losethem, it’s okay. At least if you care, you must do what is good for the other,not for yourself.  


那人低头看了看说:“将军,看来你又喝威士忌了。我不会做这种该死的蠢事。”将军转身对其他人说:“看,这是真正的勇气。” “在友情中多一点勇气。”准备好失去他们,没事的。至少如果你在乎,你必须做对别人有利的事,而不是对自己有利的事。


Good Friends Aren’t Conditional

好朋友不是有条件的


There was a doctor I knew who was a beer drinker.When I met him he was almost seventy years of age – a big man with a big gut.Sometime ago, he used to steadily visit a friend of his. Whenever he went, thefriend would serve him beer and both of them would have a drink. Whenever theyhad time, either his friend came here or he went there, whichever way. 


我认识一个医生,他是一个喝啤酒的酒徒。当我见到他时,他已经快70岁了,是一个有着大肚子的人物。从前,他会定期去拜访他的一个朋友。无论他什么时候去,他朋友都会给他端来啤酒,他们俩都会喝上一杯。不管什么时候,要么他的朋友来他这里,要么他去朋友那里,无论哪种方式。


Suddenly one day, the friend met some Guru and hestarted doing spiritual practices and gave up his beer. So the doctor wentabout telling me this whole story very elaborately, and said that was the endof a great friendship. Never again did he want to go to his friend’s housebecause the man had stopped serving beer. Lots of friendships last like this.As long as something is flowing, it is there. The moment it is gone, everythingis gone.  


突然有一天,他的朋友遇到了一个古鲁,开始修行并戒掉了他的啤酒。于是医生详细地给我讲了整个故事,说这是一段伟大友谊的结束。他再也不想去朋友家了,因为那个人已经不提供啤酒了。很多友谊都是这样维系的。只要有东西在流动,友谊就在那里。当它消失的那一刻,一切都消失了。


If you do not have a real friend in your life, youmiss something. After all, what is a friend? A friend is another confused humanbeing like you. A friend does not mean he is a perfect human being. It is justthat when two people are relaxed enough to at least approach each othersincerely, then they become friends. Your friend is as much of a mess as youare, but if two people can be in an atmosphere sincerely with each other, hebecomes your friend. You must have lots of real friends, not just one. If youdo not even have one, it is better you do something about your life now.  


如果你的生活中没有真正的朋友,你会错过一些东西。毕竟,什么是朋友?朋友是另一个像你一样迷茫的人。朋友并不意味着他就是一个完美的人。只有当两个人足够放松,至少可以真诚接近对方,他们才会成为朋友。你的朋友和你一样一团糟,但如果两个人能够真诚地相处,他就会成为你的朋友。你一定有很多真正的朋友,而不仅仅是一个。如果你连一个都没有,最好现在就去对你的生活做点什么。


Love&Grace

Sadhguru

爱与恩典
萨古鲁


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