On this Spot,Sadhguru addresses the question of truthfulness, trust, and takingresponsibility for one’s actions, not from a moralistic standpoint but in termsof what ultimately works best. He says, “Being truthful and building trust isnot a question of morality. It is the most sensible and effective way to live.”
在这篇文章中，萨古鲁谈到了关于诚实、信任的问题。告诉人们应对自己的行为负责，这不是在道德的立场上谈论，而是说什么方式最终能产生最好的结果。他说道，“保持诚实和建立信任不是道德上的问题。它是最明智和有效的生活方式。”
Sadhguru：Over the years, I have been observing that in theirenthusiasm to come to the Isha Yoga Center, unfortunately, a few people lieabout where they are going. This is just one of many examples of people lyingto their family, spouse, boss, and whoever else is around them, on a dailybasis. When you make lying a part of your life, having harmonious relationshipsis difficult. In any relationship, it is absolutely important to weed out thelies. Only then can you have a beautiful relationship. If you lie even once,they will start doubting anything you say. People lie because they do not havethe courage to face a little bit of unpleasantness that may arise from tellingthe truth. Please face this unpleasantness.
这些年来，尽管人们怀揣热情来到Isha瑜伽中心，令人失望的是，我发现当被问到自己的去处时，有小部分人说了谎。这只是其中一个例子，人们每天对自己的家庭，配偶，老板和身边的任何人撒各种各样的谎。当你把说谎变成了自己生活的一部分，拥有融洽的关系是困难的。在任何的关系中，清除掉谎言是绝对重要的。只有那样你才能拥有一段美好的关系。如果说过一次谎，人们就会开始怀疑你所说的一切。人说谎是因为没有勇气去面对坦白所引起的小小不愉快。请面对那不愉快。
If, after some consideration, you decided you want to dosomething and someone around you is against it, assert that you are going to dothis. If you tell the truth, there may be some friction, but there will be arelationship, respect, and regard. When you are lying because you want to avoidunpleasant reactions, it will ruin the relationship. They will not know anymoreif what you are saying is the truth or a lie. It will become an endlessstruggle within the other person, and in turn in the relationship. Therefore,tell the truth. It is important to stand up for what matters to you. Especiallywhen it comes to yoga, you are doing something for your wellbeing. Standing upfor yourself is good for you, for your relationships, and also for yoga.Initially, people around you may be upset, but after some time, it will settle.At least they will know they can trust you.
如果，在经过一些考虑之后，你决定要做一些事情，而你身边有某些人反对，你应坦白自己的决定。如果你告知其真相，可能会有些冲突，但关系不会破裂，你们之间会有尊敬。但你因想要避免不愉快的后果而说谎，这会破坏掉你们的关系。他们将再也无法知道你说的到底是真相还是谎言，这将会成为另一个人心中无尽的挣扎，转而反映在关系里。因此，把真相说出来吧。为你在乎的东西挺身而出是很重要的。特别是当它涉及到瑜伽，你是在为自身的幸福而努力。为自己站出来无论是对自己、对关系，还是对瑜伽而言，都是好的。一开始，你身边的人可能会难过，但过一段时间，这件事终会解决。至少大家会知道他们可以信任你。
Trust is a fragile thing. If someone trusts you onehundred percent, in a way, they are making themselves vulnerable to you. Theyallow you to get close to them. That is why if you break the trust in some way,it is going to hurt them. Another aspect is – how effective you are in theworld depends on the amount of trust you have earned. Even with the greatestintelligence, capability, and knowledge, if you do not earn the trust of peoplearound you, they will not let you create anything in the world. One of thesimplest ways to earn trust is to be straight. Whether what you did was rightor wrong, smart or stupid – be straight. Initially, it may be uncomfortable.But after some time, once people see that whatever you do, you are willing toown up to it, trust develops.
信任是很脆弱的。如果有人百分之百的信任你，在某种程度上，他们在你面前是毫无戒备的状态。他们允许你亲近。这就是为什么如果你一旦破坏了那信任，会伤害到他们。另一个层面是 – 你在这个世界处事能有多高的效率取决于你赢得了多少的信任。即便拥有最高的智力，能力和知识，如果你不赢取身边的人的信任，他们不会让你在这个世界上创造任何东西。赢取信任的最简单的方式之一是诚实。无论你做的是对是错，聪明还是愚蠢 – 要诚实。最开始的时候，你可能觉得不太舒服。但一段时间过后，一旦人们看到了无论你做什么，你都愿意对它完全坦白，信任便建立了。
If you earn the trust of ten people, in some way, youhave the strength of ten people. If you earn the trust of a million people, insome way, you have the strength of a million people. All of us should takeevery possible care to build and preserve trust. Breaking trust is easy –fixing it, not so much. When trust is damaged, the first thing is to own up towhat you have done, rather than finding devious ways to hide it. If you takeresponsibility for your action and establish for yourself and people around youhow you will be in the future, there is a chance to rebuild trust. But if yourepeatedly break people’s trust, no one will be with you. It is not just aboutmaintaining good relationships with others. Only if people trust you can youcreate something in the world. Being truthful and building trust is not aquestion of morality. It is the most sensible and effective way to live.
如果你赢取了十个人的信任，某种程度上，你拥有了十个人的力量。如果你赢取了一百万人的信任，某种程度上，你拥有了一百万人的力量。我们所有人都应该尽己所能去建立和维护信任。破坏掉信任是很简单的 – 修复它，就不是那么容易了。当信任被损坏，首先要做的是坦白你所做过的事情，而不是寻求各种迂回的方式来隐藏它。如果你为自己的行为负起责任，并且下决心要重建自己，那还有一个重建信任的机会。但如果你不断地破坏人们对你的信任，没有人会留在你身边。这不只是关于如何同他人保持良好的关系。只有当你赢得了人们的信任，你才能在这个世界上创造些东西。诚实和建立信任不是道德上的问题。这是最明智和有效的生活方式。